What does that mean to you to go on a Romantic Getaway? Take the weekend and go to a fancy 5 star hotel? Find a wonderful spa for you and your lover to indulge your every pampered thought and desire? Me too!

How about a camping trip when it is a little too cold for camping?

Imagine this…

It was end of April in the Rocky Mountains and Ole, my husband, came to pick me up from work. He sported a Cheshire grin and I said what’s up. He said he had a surprise for me. He was taking me away for a night of fun and passion.

I was excited. I thought hotel? Jacuzzi? Romantic Dinner? All of the above? Loving in luxury is always a favorite of mine.

Luxury it wasn’t. We started by stopping at Subway Subs for a snack for the road. Ole said he had supper under control but it would be a little while before we would eat so we should have something to tide us over till then.

When we settled back into the truck Ole ginned again and said he had been shopping. Now we are back on track I thought. Maybe some new love toys to use in our beautiful hotel room. I said great, where? His answer: Canadian Tire! I knew that this was not going to be what I expected.

We were going camping! We drove for about 3 hours then started to look for a secluded spot. Ole wanted a place where we can just set up. Not a campground with other people. Someplace we could relax and spend time together. 

We found a little clearing on the side of the road. It had a small stream running by it. It was so pretty and quiet. We set up the tent and pumped up the new air mattress from Canadian Tire. We had to have a tarp over the fire pit as it started to rain a little. Ole had bought a couple really nice steaks and made up potatoes with carrots and onions in a foil pouch. What a wonderful meal.

Ole also bought some fishing equipment. I had never fished before in my life. But he thought it would be fun and something relaxing to do together. And we could do this while our supper cooked. So we put on our insulated coveralls and boots because with night coming and the rain, it was getting cold, and we started fishing.

He was right. It was a great way to connect and enjoy time together. Something we had not tried before.  We didn’t fish long as it was getting dark and we thought we could snuggle around the fire and eat the wonderful meal that he had prepared for us. It was delicious. Good food. Good wine. Great company! What more could I ask for?

After supper we were feeling a little amorous and decided we should try out our new bed. The mood didn’t last long once we started taking off our clothes. IT WAS COLD! We decided it might be best to leave our insulated coveralls on and go to sleep. Then we can share a great breakfast of coffee cooked on the open fire and bacon and eggs.

When the air in the mattress cools off it gets really cold! We tossed and turned and fidgeted until 3 or 4 am. I asked if he was sleeping and he said no. I said why don’t we go home? Ole said he was just thinking the same thing. It is no easy task to take down a camp site at 4am in the dark and the tent is covered in a sheet of ice.

When we got home around 7am, we took a long hot shower together. Crawled into bed and made love. We were content, warm, happy and in love. It was a wonderful romantic getaway.

Romantic getaways are what you make them. This could have been a disaster if all I did was complain and crab about the cold, the rain and camping. But Ole took such pleasure in organizing this trip and was so excited to do this FOR me, I was swept off my feet with his tender gesture.

Be open to the romance in the situation. Open your eyes and your heart to see the love and the fantasy in the moment. You will be so very happy that you did.

Passionate regards….Brenda

In a couple days it is Valentine’s Day. How many are really looking forward to this day and how many are just going through the motions because they feel that is what is expected?

I was thinking about this yesterday when I saw two young guys walking out of the store. The one fella had a bunch of roses but the way he carried them just spoke volumes about why he bought them.

He grabbed them around the stems and they dangled by his leg as he walked. He wasn’t treating them special or tender or with any care at all. They weren’t even wrapped to protect them against winter’s chill. But, this is just what you do on Valentine’s Day.

Then I thought about the young lady I presumed he had bought them for. Did he treat her with the same disconnected interest as he did those beautiful red roses? Did he think she was so easily bought with a bunch of flowers that he treated so nonchalantly? Maybe. I can’t say for sure because I never talked to him.

If you are going to celebrate your love for each other on Valentine’s Day, mean it! Don’t just do it half heartedly because this is what is expected. Buy the beautiful flowers and chocolates. Go out for a romantic dinner with love in you heart and not lust.

If you are wooing your sweety with all the flash on Valentine’s with only thoughts of getting lucky that night, STOP! That isn’t what it is about. This is one day of the year we allow ourselves to savor the romance. For some, to go all out and play the part of a LOVER.

Now notice the word LOVER. It has LOVE in it. If Valentine’s Day was all about getting laid then everyday is Valentine’s day because there are people all over the world at any given time taking someone out for a fancy meal with flowers, chocolates and jewelry. Then they go to a hotel and have sex and the money is put on the dresser and the date is over.

Get my meaning here?

Life is so fast these days. We start the work week on a Monday and before you know it, Friday is here. The weekend skips by at the speed of light and we begin again.

Slow down for just one day. Give your undivided attention to your lover with only thoughts of making them feel amazing. Make your special someone feel like a king or queen just for one day. And this doesn’t neccessarily mean you have to spend a ton of money to do this. You can be just as romantic and amazing at home as you can when you go out.

Better yet, do this 365 days a year. When you shower your sweetheart with love and attention, everyday is Valentine’s Day. Every day is special and amazing.

If we all put as much time into our relationships as we spend waching a TV series or a sport, we would have a lot of happy couples. The divorce rate would come down. We would have happier children. There would be less crime.

Celebrate Valentine’s Day if you will. Then continue to flow that love the rest of the year. Make every day special. Make every day memorable.

Passionate regards….Brenda