I have been trying to figure out what to write about this week. I had a big AHA moment yesterday. Then, when I was watching So You Think You Can Dance today, that AHA moment was re-enforced with a power that is as strong as love.

First the AHA moment. I was having a chat with myself while I folded laundry. Just general life stuff, nothing really important. Then…BAM! This came out of the blue and I was awe struck. Not only from the weight that this AHA carries but also from my own cleverness

“Life doesn’t come to you…you come to LIFE!”

I thought, “OMG…that is SO true!” There are so many people waiting for their life to begin whether that includes finding the perfect partner, job, haircut or whatever it is. But they don’t realize that for their life to begin, they have to come to life. I was/am still so intrigued and excited by this thought.

So how does SYTYCD fit into this? Watching the way those dancers fill up that stage and dance with such grace, showmanship and talent awes me. Then to stand before the judges not knowing for sure what they will say. Their smiles are so big and excited and hopeful for their future….that is when it hit me square in my heart.

After 5½ years of being without my amazing wonderful husband, I am still waiting for my life to begin. The tears poured down my face. The ache and longing for Ole tearing apart my heart. Then understanding the real purpose of my AHA moment.

I have to come to LIFE!

Ole and I had such a full life. We did most everything together. We laughed, we loved, we cried, we argued, we made up. But our life was never humdrum or dull. We came to life so easily with each other. We didn’t wait for life to come to us. There was always a project we were working on. There was always something we were striving for. There was always something to do.

And there was always love.

The thing I find most amazing about this AHA moment is once I understood what this really meant to me, I could feel how empty I still am inside. I though I was filling up and building my new life with going to school, new friends, new ideas, etc. But I have not COME to life yet.

I don’t know what it will take to feel like I am full of life again like I did with Ole, but I think I took a huge step in the right direction from my AHA moment.

Just take a couple minutes and think about your own life. Do you feel filled with LIFE? Are you COMING to LIFE or are you waiting for life to come to you?

I hope you can feel the POWER of this AHA moment as much as I have because this is a doozy. At least for me.

Passionate regards….Brenda

I am SO EXCITED I can hardly contain myself. I HAVE GREAT NEWS! The book Ole and I wrote so many years ago is NOW AVAILABLE!

We had so much fun writing this book knowing that it will help bring more love into other peoples lives. And it has.

It is an instant down loadable ebook that you can start using today to experience the most incredible love of your life. Just like Ole and I had

Click on the book cover above and it will take you to the order page. You will see pictures of us and can read about how we decided to write this book. As you scroll down to the bottom you will see the order buttons.

Life is a journey. Why not ride the train of passion, pleasure and unconditional love. If you are worried this is just another sex book, think again. There is SO MUCH MORE packed into this little volume of knowledge.

Start your journey to a more passionate, loving and peaceful relationship.

THIS WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

Passionate regards….Brenda

I saw the greatest commercial while watching the Grey Cup yesterday. A woman was talking about how much sports her and her husband watch. How they started watching football and hockey and then they began to watch so much sports on TV that they were watching darts.

Then she says ‘Then my husband found Viagra…we don’t watch sports anymore!’

I loved it! It was so honest and I could absolutely relate. Ole and I didn’t watch sports. He didn’t like them and I really only liked watching the CFL when Saskatchewan Rough Riders play. But there were times when we would get involved in a project and loose our perspective, if I can put it that way.

And we heard others tell us that in our couples seminars how everyday life interferes with their love life. They get caught up in kids and jobs and social activies and housework and everything else that a life is built around. Then they forget to make love. They are too tired or preoccupied.

I am not suggesting that Viagra is the answer, although for some it may be. I am saying we have to remember to love that wonderful ’other’ in our life. We have to take the time to snuggle and kiss and make love. I mean MAKE LOVE, not a quickie 15 minute jump.

When you kiss each other goodbye, do you peck or do you KISS? Do you hold each other and loose yourself in your lover’s eyes and feel the passion in your heart and love muscles? Hold each other for a full 2 or 3 minutes, then release with hearts open and streaming the love that flows between you?

Love is like a delicate plant. We have to feed it and water it and pay attention to it or it will die. It is vulnerable. And it is strong. It is the giver of life and purpose. Love is the MOST amazing feeling there is in this human existence. You can change the world with love. But we must nurture it or it withers, fades and dies.

Be conscious of your love. Do the little things that make this delicate plant grow into a strong and mighty tree with roots that run forever deep and forever long. Take the time to hold each other and say ‘I love you’ with passion and feeling and meaning.

Love is not about sex. Love is about MAKING LOVE. Sex is a part of this but not all of it. Hold your lover. Talk to your lover. Grow your own forest from this one delicate little sprig of love.

‘When you talk you get understanding and understanding is peace. When you don’t talk, you get misunderstanding and misunderstanding is fear.’    Ole Poulsen 1973 – 2006

Let the peace of understanding grow a magnificent love in your life. There will always be something to do, kids to watch and jobs to go to.

But without love, it is all really very empty.

Passionate regards….Brenda