“Trust is the basis of harmony…the basis of friendship”. The Dalai Lama said this at Engage Today 2009. Do you think that’s true?

Ole and I had a REALLY special relationship. People would make comments about our relationship all the time. But I will tell you…the foundation of our relationship was TRUST.

We owned a hair salon for a few years just outside Calgary, AB. This particular day, Ole was in the shop and I had clients I was working on as well as people that were walking in to make appointments. Ole was helping with the phone and talking to the walk-ins.

One of the women in the shop was watching him while I was busy with another client. She was waiting for her color to finish processing and was just observing the activities in the salon.

Then Ole had to step out for a minute and she said to me, “He doesn’t even SEE the other women. He looks at them but no different than he looks at anyone else. Then he looks at you….you are so lucky.”

She continued, “He loves you so much. He would NEVER stray from you.”

She was absolutely right on both observations. I was blessed with a man like Ole. And I KNEW he would NEVER cheat on me. And he KNEW the same about me. He was the only man in my life. The only man I wanted.

I never felt jealous when Ole talked with women or worried that they were younger, prettier, smarter, more successful or any other reason why his eyes may wander. We trusted each other. That was our foundation.

Without trust in a relationship, you have nothing. And that goes for ANY relationship. If you can’t trust your friend to keep their word, how often will you turn to that person for help or to keep your secret? I would guess, not very often.

In a relationship you have to have a strong foundation, one that is built on trust. You don’t build a house from the roof down. You dig the basement and lay the foundation to make the house strong to be able to last over the years of sun and rain and storms and to keep your family safe.

I know it is a common analogy but it is the truth. Trust is the foundation to build all your relationships on.

I da’ know…I mean I am guessing here but perhaps, maybe, is that why divorce rates are so high? Just a guess is all.

Building on trust will give you security, friendship, and peace of mind. Makes sense to start building your relationship there doesn’t it?

Trust is the foundation to a great relationship.

Trust me !-)

Passionate Regards…Brenda